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Monsters in the Closet: Bedtime Basics for Parents


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Bedtime can be a scary time for kids who share their room with a monster. See how parents can help kids make the transition to sleep with a healthy dose of creativity and support.

Medically Reviewed On: July 11, 2008

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ANNOUNCER: They can have five heads, or stand as tall as a building, or ooze green slime and fly. Who are they?

They're the monsters hiding in the closet, under the bed or behind the door. And they're only seen by kids, and of course, only seen at night.

JODI MINDELL, PhD: All of a sudden, they start to understand there's things that can hurt them and their imagination is flourishing and so what they're scared of is not the crossing the street with traffic or not the stranger, what they're scared of is these imaginary creatures. And so you get many, many toddlers who are afraid at bedtime that there's a monster under their bed. These are fears are totally normal and are part of typical development.

ANNOUNCER: No matter what their shape or form, those monsters are not the most agreeable bedtime companions.

DANIEL LEWIN, PhD: Nighttime fear is a very important cause of toddlers having difficulty making the transition to sleep.

ANNOUNCER: Heightened awareness is a natural instinct, an evolutionary trait, to keep humans on the alert for danger.

DANIEL LEWIN, PhD: We'd like to know what's around us and that's important for our survival. So letting down vigilance, by definition, should not be easy. So for adults, we've learned lots of ways to let down vigilance. We can talk to ourselves, we can tell ourselves that we're safe, we know where the telephone is if there's a problem, we know that we can turn on a light, we can tell ourselves that everything will be okay, that we'll be okay the next morning.

ANNOUNCER: But try telling that to your child.

DANIEL LEWIN, PhD: Some toddlers make the transition to sleep beautifully and we don't need to worry about them. But other toddlers have much more difficulty making the transition to sleep, because they don't let down vigilance easily.

ANNOUNCER: To any child, the appearance of bedtime fiends is serious business.

DANIEL LEWIN, PhD: Nighttime fears are, first of all, very real. Some children who have a little bit more anxiety during the day, a little bit more trouble calming down at night, may have far more fears at night. And, for those children, helping them with those fears is very, very important.

ANNOUNCER: What parents don't want to do is give the monsters too much airtime.

JODI MINDELL, PhD: Parents need to be careful about that because they're walking a fine line in that, if you do too much and overreact to it, what you may be is reinforcing is that there really is something to be scared of.

ANNOUNCER: What parents do want to do is acknowledge that their child's fear is very real, if only to the child

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